Get ready for this quick heartbreaking story about love gone wrong from a crafty and callous global dating scam artist.
We recently received an email from Linda, who is concerned and wondering if she should worry about falling for a scam from a person she’s been talking to online. Here’s what she had to say:
“I have been been in contact with a man who is a Structural Engineer that says he lives and has his office in Wisconsin, but currently is in Dubai overseeing the construction of buildings that he was awarded a contract to build, we talk on the phone all the time and text all the time. He has shared everything that I have asked. He has asked if he could have his creditor send a check to me to deposit into my bank and then send money to various vendors for him. I have no money in my account that he could scam and I have no reason to think he is a scammer. I have run several checks on him and nothing comes up, and want to know the danger of doing that. I have his Phone# his address. – LINDA”
Linda is just one of the millions of people who have turned to the internet to find a potential partner. According to the FTC, looking for love in all the wrong places got nearly 70,000 people ripped off by a romance scam in 2022.
Get this, the reported losses have added up to a staggering $1.3 billion. Not because people are dumb, it’s a result of online crooks getting clever at pulling heartstrings to take advantage of countless eligible singles.
How these dastardly crooks are swindling so many singles is nothing short of heartbreaking. If you’ve met someone through social media, a website, or an app, here’s what you gotta’ know.
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Watch out for these dating scam red flags
Red Flag #1
Scammers will often lie about their profession
Be wary if the person you’ve met online says they have one of these jobs:
- Works on an oil rig
- Military
- Doctor in an international organization
- Construction worker abroad
- ‘Top secret’ government position
The imposters will commonly say they’re working, living, or traveling outside of the U.S.
Red Flag #2
You’re asked to move the conversation to a third-party platform
Someone you met online might ask you to chat instead on:
- Google Hangouts
- Facebook Messenger
While it may seem like they want to continue getting to know you, really the scammer is hoping to avoid having their account reported on the site or app where you met.
Red Flag #3
Never give money or any financial information
Even if someone sends you money first or says, the money is so they can buy a phone card to continue talking to you, never send money to anyone you meet online.
Common reasons they might ask for money:
- To pay for a plane ticket or other travel expense
- To pay for a visa or other travel document
- To pay for surgery or other medical expense
- To pay off a gambling debt
- To pay for customs fees to retrieve something
Scammers often ask you to pay:
- By wiring money
- By purchasing gift cards
- Through Venmo or Zelle (they might send money first, however, that is also likely a scam)
Red Flag #4
They won’t video chat with you
With Zoom, FaceTime, and video call features available on most dating sites, it’s easy to meet anyone virtually.
They’re most likely not the person they claim to be in the photos they’ve posted to their dating or social media profile if they won’t meet via video call.
If you do video chat with someone and their picture is always dark, this is another common way for scammers to hide their real identity.
Red Flag #5
The relationship moves too quickly
Scammers want to gain your trust, so they might:
- Profess their love after a short amount of time
- Propose or ask about marriage
- Ask you not to tell your friends and family about the relationship
They also might ask questions like:
- What’s your mother’s maiden name?
- What street did you grow up on?
Never give away personal information to someone you haven’t met – these are all ploys to eventually steal money or financial information.
#1 tip to avoid getting scammed on a dating app
Reverse search a profile picture of a dating profile to make sure it’s not an image being used on other profiles and in other articles across the web. Follow my steps here.
What should you do if you think you’ve been scammed?
- Report the scammer to the FTC here and on the website or app you met them on, and the appropriate authorities
- If you sent money, contact your bank or credit/debit card company and report fraud
- If you sent a gift card, keep the receipt and contact the gift card company and report the scam
- If you gave out any personal information like a social security number, follow the steps at IdentityTheft.gov.
- Be sure to invest in good Identity Theft software to protect your identity and financial accounts. More about my #1 pick here.
By reporting it, you can help prevent others from falling victim to the same romance scam and remember if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. So be cautious and always use good judgment when interacting with people on social media, dating apps, or websites. There are plenty of really good people out there to meet, just be extra aware while you navigate what’s now become the most popular way to meet someone you truly can fall in love with.
Have you or anyone you know experienced scammers like this? Comment below.
Related:
- Why you are 18 times more likely to get scammed on social media
- Online Dating Scams: How To Tell If You Are Being Baited by a Catfish